Sunday, December 18, 2011

Guest Post: How To Get What You Want From Online Dating

Yay! Since I cannot figure it out for myself, I have turned to the experts from Read on for their amazingly accurate advice:

If there is something in this world that you want, you should go after it, right? Making a list of your goals and desires, and then finding a way to achieve them is a strong way to go about getting what you want. The trick is you have to be specific. The more specific you are in terms of what you want in life, the greater the chances are of you achieving those goals. This is a great way to determine what you want in most aspects of your life, including using a dating site.

You have to know what you want in a mate. What type of person are you looking for? It is often suggested to make a list of attributes and qualities you would like your significant other to possess. This goes far beyond physical characteristics. This list should include interests, goals, morals and values, and basically the things that might make your dream person tick. There are so many dating sites out there, and before you even begin to look for your perfect date, you may want to concentrate on finding the right dating site.

Each dating site has something unique to offer. If you know what it is you are looking for; if you are clear and specific in your wants, needs and desires, choosing the right dating site should be easy. Do a search and see what type of people are on the site. If the site caters to people that are not in your interest group, then move on to the next one. Once you see the type of people each individual site attracts, then you can determine if it’s the right site for you.

As important as it is to be specific with what you want, you also don’t want to be too picky. This may sound like a contradiction, but the fact is that sometimes we set our standards so high, no one could possibly live up to them. There is no such thing as a perfect person. If you meet someone who has six of the ten attributes you put on your “must have” list, I’d say you are doing very well. Be flexible and adaptable when meeting new people. If you hit it off right away, there may be potential for something long-term to develop. If you’re not looking for anything long-term, and simply want to meet and date a variety of people, you should definitely be up- front about your intentions. Communication is key, so let your date know what it is you were hoping to find when you went on the dating website in the first place.

Know what you want. Know what you’re looking for. Be specific and be patient. And have the faith to know that it will come to you in time if you put specific thought into getting what you want.

About the Author: Debbie Lamedman is an avid dating blogger. She frequently writes about dating for Dating She is highly sought after by friends and bloggers for relationship advice.

Thank you, Debbie The Dating Doyenne!

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