"You know, Carrie, it doesn't get any easier to meet men as you get older."
~ June Cleaver Blogshaw, 2002
Yes, another famous quote from my mother. And yes, again, she was right.
This weekend, my sexy single partner in crime, Mademoiselle, and I went out on the town. After a divine dinner, we went to a bar for some drinks and dancing. In the lineup, we met a duo of dudes and started chatting. Mademoiselle had her eye on one and I, therefore, ended up stuck with The Friend (known as such because I am now so old and deaf that I can't hear over loud music). After trying many different strategies to relieve myself of The Friend (including ignoring him, dancing with other guys and at one sad point, running away), I started downing drinks like a champ. Like I used to.. When I was younger...
By the end of the evening, I had dined, drank and danced with the best of them. Mademoiselle and I met lots of new guys, however none ended up being promising prospects. The next day, I woke up with the most horrible hangover ever. I felt worse and worse as the day wore on. I had to skip my gym class, cancel my hair cut and missed out on rooftop drinks (oh, I could still barf!). What's worse? Halfway through the day I had a flashback of making out with someone. But which one?! I'm pretty sure, through my foggy haze, that it was The Friend. People, I made out with someone and I don't even know his name!
If this is what it takes to meet men these days, I'm screwed. At my age and stage, I need to find ways to meet men where I can be sober (or slightly buzzed, that's always fun...), where I have the use of all my senses, where it doesn't cost a minimum of $100 and where I won't lose an entire day for recovery. Cheers!
Sunday, July 15, 2012
Monday, July 2, 2012
Today's Funny
Once upon a time, a sexy singleton read a bedtime story and it was the bestest, happiest, most satisfying story she'd ever read.
And she (and her bottle of wine) lived happily ever after!
And she (and her bottle of wine) lived happily ever after!
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Guest Post: The Best Places To Find A Mate
This week, my sexy singletons, we are lucky to have a guest post from esteemed dating advisor, Lynn Reid. Below are lovely Lynn's tips on: Where are the best places to find a potential partner?
Many adults are looking for that special someone. However, it can be difficult to find potential partners. If someone works a lot or spends a lot of time travelling, it may seem nearly impossible. Luckily, there are some great ways to find a potential partner. Here are just a few:
Work
Most people spend a lot of time at their workplace, making it one of the top ways to find a potential partner. There are many married couples who met at their place of work. It's important to use best judgement here though, since two people may not be a match and will have to see each other every day at work if things go sour.
Blind Dates
Some people have their mates set them up on a blind date. This can work out very well, since mates usually know their friends quite well and there is a good chance that they will choose someone suitable. When out on a blind date, be sure not to lean on the topic of the friend in common; it is important for the two people on the date to talk as if they had met on their own.
Anyone meeting a blind date must realise that their mutual friend has likely shared some information about each other. It's imperative to give their blind date partner a chance to get to know the real person behind the stories, and to try not to focus on stories they may have already heard about their date.
Online Dating
Online dating is becoming more popular as a way to meet dates. It is great for those who want to be proactive and make things happen instead of waiting to bump into the right person. The ability to browse profiles and contact attractive possibilities is an easy way to meet people with shared interests, and can be a great way to showcase one's own profile. It is important to remember to take safety precautions as one might in any situation, but online dating can be a great way to line up a few dates.
Out and About!
People tend to forget that there is a world of people outside their front door. Simple things like walking down the street or standing in a lift can present a number of dating opportunities. It's important to be aware of all the possibilities that exist every day in a number of ordinary places.
Evening Classes
This is a great way to meet someone new who could be interested in the same things as you, depending on your course. It could be cooking or martial arts, it doesn’t matter as long as you share the enthusiasm for the topic you will click and it may even lead to romance or love.
Picking Your Moment
While there are many places to meet that special someone, there are a few places that usually bode poorly for a relationship. A bar can be a fun place to meet up, but if someone is very drunk, he or she should avoid seeking dates as it may seem more like harassment. It would be embarrassing and upsetting for the person being asked. Alcohol will always bring out the worst in you rather than the best.
Another time where a dating advance will not be received well is when it is clear that someone is not in the mood to talk. A lot of people tend to ignore basic body language cues when asking someone out. If the person is sitting with their head down, reading or has a stressed look on their face, it is best to let them alone.
Finding potential partners may seem difficult at first, but there are all kinds of opportunities to meet a potential partner. Taking one's time and doing what feels right will ultimately end in a great relationship.
~ Lynn Reid works as a dating adviser, she helps others finding people potential dates around the world. She currently works for the dating team at Lovestruck Hong Kong using her knowledge and experiences as an ex-pat to help others ~
Many adults are looking for that special someone. However, it can be difficult to find potential partners. If someone works a lot or spends a lot of time travelling, it may seem nearly impossible. Luckily, there are some great ways to find a potential partner. Here are just a few:
Work
Most people spend a lot of time at their workplace, making it one of the top ways to find a potential partner. There are many married couples who met at their place of work. It's important to use best judgement here though, since two people may not be a match and will have to see each other every day at work if things go sour.
Blind Dates
Some people have their mates set them up on a blind date. This can work out very well, since mates usually know their friends quite well and there is a good chance that they will choose someone suitable. When out on a blind date, be sure not to lean on the topic of the friend in common; it is important for the two people on the date to talk as if they had met on their own.
Anyone meeting a blind date must realise that their mutual friend has likely shared some information about each other. It's imperative to give their blind date partner a chance to get to know the real person behind the stories, and to try not to focus on stories they may have already heard about their date.
Online Dating
Online dating is becoming more popular as a way to meet dates. It is great for those who want to be proactive and make things happen instead of waiting to bump into the right person. The ability to browse profiles and contact attractive possibilities is an easy way to meet people with shared interests, and can be a great way to showcase one's own profile. It is important to remember to take safety precautions as one might in any situation, but online dating can be a great way to line up a few dates.
Out and About!
People tend to forget that there is a world of people outside their front door. Simple things like walking down the street or standing in a lift can present a number of dating opportunities. It's important to be aware of all the possibilities that exist every day in a number of ordinary places.
Evening Classes
This is a great way to meet someone new who could be interested in the same things as you, depending on your course. It could be cooking or martial arts, it doesn’t matter as long as you share the enthusiasm for the topic you will click and it may even lead to romance or love.
Picking Your Moment
While there are many places to meet that special someone, there are a few places that usually bode poorly for a relationship. A bar can be a fun place to meet up, but if someone is very drunk, he or she should avoid seeking dates as it may seem more like harassment. It would be embarrassing and upsetting for the person being asked. Alcohol will always bring out the worst in you rather than the best.
Another time where a dating advance will not be received well is when it is clear that someone is not in the mood to talk. A lot of people tend to ignore basic body language cues when asking someone out. If the person is sitting with their head down, reading or has a stressed look on their face, it is best to let them alone.
Finding potential partners may seem difficult at first, but there are all kinds of opportunities to meet a potential partner. Taking one's time and doing what feels right will ultimately end in a great relationship.
~ Lynn Reid works as a dating adviser, she helps others finding people potential dates around the world. She currently works for the dating team at Lovestruck Hong Kong using her knowledge and experiences as an ex-pat to help others ~
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Friends Without Benefits

Is it even possible?! I have a few male friends in my life. But did most of those relationships start out with platonic intentions? Not so much. As I've gotten older (and better!), I have made male friends, but they are mostly gay. Fabulous! Nowadays, men don't seem to interact with me so that we can just hang out. Or do they?
Recently, an acquaintance and I have been spending time together. We've both experienced some disastrous and depressing dating scenarios in the past while, so there is a bit of hesitation on both our parts. We have been honest about this. Platonically, we connect on many levels. He's definitely come into my life for a reason and I have been enjoying our hang outs. The question is: will we be able to maintain a friendship without benefits?
I have noticed some friskiness in the interactions recently and I wonder where this is headed. How do I keep it friendly? Do I continue to show up when we meet dressed like a garbage collector? Acting like one?? Smelling like one??? On my part, I can't really help it if he happens to be smart, funny and playful. He's also tall and smells good, but I'm not focusing on that, right?!
Friendship, like love, is formed out of attraction. We choose our bff's like we do our bf's based on qualities that we find fascinating. I'm attracted to my bff's without wanting to do them. Perhaps I shouldn't focus on the lack of benefits in a friendship, because there are some after all. Together, we can platonically:
* Talk about things that I find most guys don't want to dish about
* Get the opinion of the opposite gender on decoding crazy or questionable conduct
* Hit the patios this summer without having to go on any dubious dates
* Get totally loaded, cross the line, not be able to sort it out and become f*ck friends with benefits!
Sunday, June 10, 2012
Caller ID
It's hilarious because I'm sure every sexy singleton has their own version...
I know I do. Who doesn't want to know when 'Big Fat Baby', 'Big Daddy', 'Whine-O' or 'IfIt'sNotOneThingIt'sMyMother' calls?!
Monday, May 21, 2012
Big Daddy = Big Cokehead?!
Well, well, well... Maybe that explains his behaviour! Imagine my shock and horror when a mutual friend of mine and Big Daddy's, told me that he suspects cocaine use (due to recent frazzled encounters). Who knew?! Certainly not me!
Now, I'm no angel, however I am no junkie! Never having tried cocaine, I had to refer to the internet to check the signs of use:
* Impaired Thinking - This might explain why he took off so abruptly after declaring me the "love of his life"
* Confusion - Clearly he was very confused!
* Depression - Saw a touch of that - seemed inapropriate to the situation at hand. Especially considering it was Valentines Day. Pull it together!
* Sleeplessness - The man kept me up all night long wanting to cuddle or watch tv. I thought he might be a vampire...
* Loss Of Appetite - I wish he suffered from that - he was starting to get a bit fat!
* Decresed Sexual Appetite - Definitely not a symptom that he suffered
* Restlessness - He was like a kid in a candy store when we were together, however I thought his intense interest and desire to do 20 things at once with me was flattering...
* Very Talkative - Yes, he could talk the talk but didn't end up walking the walk. How typical!
Well, we may never know for sure, however it seems that it's a distinct possibility that I was delusionally dating a doped-up druggie!
Now, I'm no angel, however I am no junkie! Never having tried cocaine, I had to refer to the internet to check the signs of use:
* Impaired Thinking - This might explain why he took off so abruptly after declaring me the "love of his life"
* Confusion - Clearly he was very confused!
* Depression - Saw a touch of that - seemed inapropriate to the situation at hand. Especially considering it was Valentines Day. Pull it together!
* Sleeplessness - The man kept me up all night long wanting to cuddle or watch tv. I thought he might be a vampire...
* Loss Of Appetite - I wish he suffered from that - he was starting to get a bit fat!
* Decresed Sexual Appetite - Definitely not a symptom that he suffered
* Restlessness - He was like a kid in a candy store when we were together, however I thought his intense interest and desire to do 20 things at once with me was flattering...
* Very Talkative - Yes, he could talk the talk but didn't end up walking the walk. How typical!
Well, we may never know for sure, however it seems that it's a distinct possibility that I was delusionally dating a doped-up druggie!
Sunday, May 13, 2012
Guest Post: Meet Singles Wherever You Are
Yes!
I am pleased to post tips on how to meet a match as declared by the dating gurus at Singles Warehouse, a UK internet dating site. Read on for their tried and true tips:
Being single means a lot of things … one thing for certain is that it means every man and woman you meet is a potential partner. You don’t believe it? Well you should. As a single person, you need to be able to meet singles wherever you are. It could be at the grocery store, at the gym, at the park, at the bookstore and at your favourite restaurant … there are prospects everywhere. You just need to know how and where to look.
Here are some tips and tricks to scope out the singles in your area:
Always look around for people you’re attracted to (make sure they don’t have a wedding ring on!)
If you see someone you’re attracted to, give them a nice smile and turn away, then look at them again and smile … just in case they weren’t sure the first time
When sitting or standing always keep your body language open, don’t cross your arms and look welcoming
Frequent places, areas and activities you are interested in so that you find others that have the same interests and discuss your interests with them
The coffee shop is a great place to meet singles, just don’t hide behind your computer or book, make sure to look approachable and smile if someone looks your way
If out at the bar or pub, over drinking may give you that extra confidence you need, but it will also ensure you make all the wrong choice, so one or two drinks should be your maximum if you’re there to meet someone
Last, but not least, you need to always look your best wherever you go, even if you don’t feel like it. Why? Because you never know who you’re going to come across and meet while you are out.
So as you can see, you can meet singles wherever you are, you just need to know how and where to look!
Happy Dating!
Singles Warehouse
I am pleased to post tips on how to meet a match as declared by the dating gurus at Singles Warehouse, a UK internet dating site. Read on for their tried and true tips:
Being single means a lot of things … one thing for certain is that it means every man and woman you meet is a potential partner. You don’t believe it? Well you should. As a single person, you need to be able to meet singles wherever you are. It could be at the grocery store, at the gym, at the park, at the bookstore and at your favourite restaurant … there are prospects everywhere. You just need to know how and where to look.
Here are some tips and tricks to scope out the singles in your area:
Always look around for people you’re attracted to (make sure they don’t have a wedding ring on!)
If you see someone you’re attracted to, give them a nice smile and turn away, then look at them again and smile … just in case they weren’t sure the first time
When sitting or standing always keep your body language open, don’t cross your arms and look welcoming
Frequent places, areas and activities you are interested in so that you find others that have the same interests and discuss your interests with them
The coffee shop is a great place to meet singles, just don’t hide behind your computer or book, make sure to look approachable and smile if someone looks your way
If out at the bar or pub, over drinking may give you that extra confidence you need, but it will also ensure you make all the wrong choice, so one or two drinks should be your maximum if you’re there to meet someone
Last, but not least, you need to always look your best wherever you go, even if you don’t feel like it. Why? Because you never know who you’re going to come across and meet while you are out.
So as you can see, you can meet singles wherever you are, you just need to know how and where to look!
Happy Dating!
Singles Warehouse
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